Thoughts on Gossip
Gossip is truly the bane of every preacher’s ministry. We simply hate it. Often the gossip is worsened by the fact that the Deaf Community in any area is basically a small town, with all the gossip and drama that goes along with it. Lately, I have been dealing with this issue in my Deaf Ministry lately, and I wanted to share some thoughts for us leading a ministry that is dealing with gossip.
Before I begin with some specific thoughts, I think Solomon said it best in Proverbs 26:20:
Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.
I could probably end the post there. However, I still want to share some of the lessons God has taught me during this time.
Gossip is sin. We should treat it as such. At first, I found myself unwilling to cut people off when they started gossiping due my own politeness. When I reflect on this, I realized that if someone was to offer me to indulge any other sin with them, my first response would be “Now wait a second,” but this tends not to be our first response with gossip. However, it should be!
Some people enjoy gossip. It amazes me how people are so quick to jump into other people’s business, and even other people’s gossip about other people’s business. As I said before, gossip is sin and some people enjoy it just like any other sin. Most of us know this, but it still blew me away to see in in action in the real world.
It’s never “their” fault. I have heard all kinds of stories and excuses since I’ve been leading a Deaf Ministry, however I have been amazed at how many ways people can justify their gossip! Of course, the people who are starting the rumors, or sticking their nose into the gossip, are never at fault. They really seem to believe that what they are doing is perfectly acceptable or that they are not truly gossiping.
Leaders should be above gossip. We need to have the backbone to tell people that we will not talk to them about other people. People might call us rude, inconsiderate, or say we don’t like Deaf people, but they should never be able to say of us that we gossip. We should not enable people’s sin.
These are just some of my thoughts, lately. It is all common sense, but when you see thing like that happen in people’s life, sometimes it helps to remember and share some common sense reminders.
What thoughts do you have when you see gossip happening in your church? How do you try to stop it?